Redefinition of missingpublished: 2008-09-26
In NY a friend asked whether I missed my son.
"Of course," I said and then wondered how to describe what missing your child feels like to a woman who has no child. How could I possibly put the physical lacking to words? That hollow vault kind of feeling, not anywhere in your body specifically because actually it's inside out and so the vault isn't in you but you're in that vault?
"I miss his scent. You could blindfold me and have me sniff the heads of a thousand toddlers, I would know exactly which one was my son."