He is on facebook, and he comes recommended as a friend. But he is dead. He is on Linkedin too. His photo smiles at me. He is tanned and he is wearing a bow tie. Radiant. Alive. Where it says likes & interests he has filled in: Charlie Chaplin.
He has friends and connections and followers and I wonder: do all of them know? Does his widow know? If my husband died, would I be allowed to access his accounts, read all his DMs, the personal messages? Would I want to? Would I want to know he wasn’t only special to me?
I would do this: respond to his friends as if he were still alive. I’d send messages from him to myself.