a word of advice on advicepublished: 2012-12-02
To call someone when you feel sad. And that person is happy to give you advice. That person may well say things like: “Resist every temptation. Be strong. You shouldn’t feel like you need to move to the other side of the world in order to be able to stop this.”
“But… but, I was thinking maybe…”
“No no no no! What you need to do is think about yourself and what it is that you’re looking for. What does this attachment say about you?”
So then you sit there being strong and resisting temptation and fear and desire and all sorts of contrasting emotions and believing everything in the world is wrong with you. And by the time it’s too late, you’ve finally figured it out: Wasn’t that person herself trapped in an abusive relationship?
What’s even worse is when someone tells you to let go. Because why? Why should one have to let go?